We sometimes have a narrative running in our minds. . Sometimes these stories do not reflect the true nature of the situation, They are stories that we have created to make sense of our reality. When we go into a story we stop noticing what is happening in reality, We stop noticing what happening in our bodies. We stop listening to our logic and we cannot access our intuition. We are enveloped in the narrative. This can carry us into a fantasy of our own making that has little correlation to our own world or the world of another person.
When you feel yourself telling a story, stop and breath and ask yourself,:
What am I telling myself?.
Is this really true?
What evidence do I have?
What do I feel about this really?
Where would I be without this story?
We then can start to observe the thoughts that create the story rather than be dictated that they are the facts. They are not. Thoughts are not facts. A stream of thoughts can be interesting and amusing. Yet they do not necessarily reflect reality, yours or another persons.
If we sit quietly and breathe we can create some distance between the thoughts and start to observe the present.
We can notice and create space that enables us to respond instead of reacting.
Every time we go into an altered state of reality created by thoughts alone, we have lost our present moment awareness and that drains our power. Stay with your thoughts yet remember. Thoughts are not facts.