Miguel Ruiz many years ago wrote a book called The Four Agreements. All of the agreements are based based on Totlec philosophy.
The agreements require self-reflection, to respond to situations rather than react to them. There is a moment when something triggers us and the trigger comes from the environment or in our own mind. We can react immediately or we can slow down, take a deep breath and respond. It is in that that gap where we can chose differently. When we do, we avoid the trap of going into automatic mode, a mode where we have no choice but to run on old fear based programmes.
The agreements are described below. If we make them active questions that these can be tools for mindful living. Asking them every day reminds us of the very things that can sabotage us: self-judgement , judgment of others, not being present and not being aware. These descriptive paragraph below is taken from Ruiz's book The Four Agreements:
1. Be Impeccable with your Word. Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the Word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your Word in the direction of truth and love.
2. Don't Take Anything Personally Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you wont be the victim of needless suffering.
3. Dont Make Assumptions Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
4. Always Do Your Best Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.
Daily Active questions for self-reflection
Am I impeccable with my word? Am I taking this personally? Am I making assumptions about this person Am I doing my best?
When ask ourselves these questions frequently we remain in a state of mindful interaction.